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Living the Personal Myth: Making the Magic of Faerie Real in One's Own Life

Living the Personal Myth is written by Zardoa Silverstar of the Silver Elves. It is a unique narrative about a psychological study of the magic of living one’s personal myth, in effect, making one’s dream and vision of one’s self come true by living it. It is a personal guide to becoming one’s true s’elf as one inwardly knows one’s s’elf to be. What makes this book particularly interesting is that Zardoa considers himself to be an elf, yet he uses scientific methods to psychologically examine his identification with the Otherkin world. He explores his personal myth and life as an elf and demonstrates how basing one’s myth on real events in one’s life empowers one’s myth and one’s magic. Whatever or whoever you are, this book is a potent guide to realizing one’s genuine, and potentially powerful, magical and fantastic, nature.

Zardoa uses dream work techniques, oracle readings, and active imagination to take us through a depth psychology exploration of his own experience in the individuation process of becoming a whole person whose unconscious and conscious elements are integrated and merged as a unique individual. Much of the material in this book is based on a depth process study he conducted at Sonoma State University in the Depth Psychology Department in 2005.

This work suggests “Personal Myth” to be an understanding of the self that incorporates the symbolic, imaginal and fantasy elements of the unconscious and accepts them as real within their own realms of being. It is the author’s belief that the Personal Myth is the unconscious’ understanding of the individual spirit’s Cosmic aspirations and potentialities. In that way, Personal Myth is seen as the personality of the unconscious and of the individual’s spirit.

We hope you will enjoy scrolling down and reading some sample writing from this book.

This book is dedicated to Oberon and Morning Glory for always having the courage to dress up and come out to play. You are an inspiration to us all.


Thank you H M J Van Geel for your superb review on Amazon:

“I just finished reading this wondrous book Living the Personal Myth. It was a very good experience.
The description of acts of Active Imagination, from another point of view is as like me, consulting my Guides, or even, like him, being with my Faerie Lover.
The book is very well wrought , never invented, from introduction to conclusion, it is a Shamanic Journey, as he states hirs'elf ever and again.
I was shocked when he told about the 2 or 3 year old Zardoa, falling in love with the little Fae (did he show them his, like they showed him theirs ?). It is exactly as it was with me. And then , during puberty, too shy to talk to a girl....
This book gave me the miracle of art and science to relate to Magic.
There is a sneaky play by him with truth and lying, with living to the limits, it'made me sometimes raise an eyebrow...
To conclude, this book would by an aid to any one, seeking themselves, and especially for those feeling to be Otherkin.”


Sample from the Appendix, page 217-218

The Quest for Immortality

Nearly all stories about Elfin say that we are either immortal or nearly so. This interestingly is also the case of the mythos of the vampire (whom we consider in most cases to be Unseelie or dark elven). The difference is that vampires must drink blood to live, whereas elves have obtained immortality without the need to deprive others of life or blood. The vampire mythos parallels, we believe, humanity’s own progress from meat eating, and in some cases cannibalism, to non-killing/vegetarian diet. Although, we should point out that before mankind became meat eaters that they were mostly likely vegetarians, eating fruit and leaves from trees and bushes.

In fact, the story of Cain killing Abel in the Bible from our elven point of view seems to be about the progress from vegetarianism to meat eating. Cain kills Abel because he sacrificed an animal (currently regarded by general society as a demonic act), which was previously forbidden. However, the god of the Bible found the sacrifice pleasing, thus condoned the killing of animals, although He condemned the killing of humans, even when they thems’elves had killed, and put a mark on Cain to signify that he was not to be killed, was under His protection, even though he was exiled. This would seem to be an argument against capital punishment, although it seems few would construe it so.

Currently, the topic most likely to cause the most heated arguments among elves and otherkin in this era concerns vegetarianism vs. meat eating. Yet, these elves believe that we cannot live forever as long as we kill to live. The Vampire existence prolongs life provisionally. To become immortal we must give up killing. This would seem to be in accord with an Aquarian movement toward mutual tolerance. At the same time, we cannot stop people from killing animals; we can only suggest that doing so will lead to a better and healthier life for nearly everyone.

Tymlyre (Leary, 1982) prophesied that as we move into space we will also be unlocking the genetic code that controls aging, and we will in due course of time become immortal. But immortality without s’elf actualization merely leads to horror and misery and therefore to a living hell. It is an underlying principle of the Aquarian and Seelie Elven philosophy that we cannot be happy if our happiness is obtained by depriving others. For to be immortal and still kill to live is to infuse the world with misery, a misery that because we caused it is ultimately, in a magical and karmic sense, our own.

As we noted earlier, many of the novels we’ve cited are about the merging of the normal human and faerie realms. Our move toward immortality is not a one-way endeavor. We are not merely becoming more powerful as physical beings, but we are also becoming in a way, less physical and more ethereal (Freda Warrington’s novels, Elfland, Midsummer Night and Grail of the Summer Stars are called the Aetherial Tales). Just as our personal myth is made real by uniting it with the “real” world, so too does the living of our myth, spiritualize, etherealize our lives. We are learning through our magic, through our imaginal process, through lucid dreaming and other techniques, to live in those alternate realms of reality, those Quantum Realms of possibility.

The purpose and power of Myth then, as we propose it, is to show us beings who are not mere human beings with all our failings and frailties but with greater or special powers, but rather to show us beings who are more intelligent, more kind, more loving; just a couple of steps beyond us, so that in reaching toward them we become better, greater, more powerful beings ours’elves. For as we become more effective, ‘elf actualized beings, we will inevitably create Faerie all about us.

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Sample of book from Chapter 3, pages 53-56:

CHAPTER 3: The Development of My Personal Myth

Welcome to My World

James Hillman (1997), Jungian analyst and the originator of archetypal psychology, argues that the generally accepted opinion, which holds that the parents, particularly the mother, is the most formative power in a person’s life, is inaccurate. He offers instead the idea that there is the archetypal daimon who guides us and drives us toward fulfillment of our true nature and calling. This daimon is in the form of a guiding force or guardian angel who holds the image of what we are meant to be. Of this he writes, “Yet all along a little elf whispers another tale: ‘You are different; you’re not like anyone in the family; you don’t really belong.’ There is an unbeliever in the heart. It calls the family a fantasy, a fallacy.” I heard that elf. It whispered to me: You are one of us.

I am an elf. I realize that must sound strange to some readers, since from the popularly accepted point of view, elves are fictional beings who do not and, being a product of fiction/fantasy/fairy tales/folk lore, cannot exist. However, the intelligent reader, like yourself, will ask, what do you mean by that statement? And my reply is multifold. When I say I am an elf, I mean, in part, that I am a theorist and practitioner of what I call the Elven Way (see our book of that title), which is a spiritual practice. Therefore, when I say I am an elf, I’m using it in the same way someone might say, I’m a practitioner of Buddhism, or Hinduism, or Catholicism or Judaism.

However, as you will see, for mys’elf, I also use my identification as an elf in both a genetic sense and a cultural one. Thus I could say to you that I am a descendent of the Scottish, English, Welsh, French and Dutch, but as I trace the ancestry of those peoples further back, I find I am equally entitled to tell you I am a descendent of the Pixies, Elves, Brownies, and Fae or Faery Folk. Just as some modern Italians could say they are descended from the Romans and some might argue before that the Trojans, so I tell you I am descended from the folks who were once known as the Elves, Pixies. Brownies and Fae. And just as the stories of Troy where once thought to be purely fictional or mythological until the late 1870’s, so are the stories of my ancestors currently considered in just this way.

And I also use the term elf culturally. So when I say I am an elf, I also mean that I carry on many of the traditions and fashions that have been passed on through the ages by my people. However, I don’t ask you to believe I am an elf. I simply ask to you to understand and accept that this is the culture, people and tradition, with whom I identify. And it is this culture that is at the heart of my personal myth.

Religion or Culture?

If you tell someone that you are a Buddhist, a Catholic, a Jew or even an agnostic or atheist, while they might not agree with your choice, they at least, for the most part believe it to be a real one. If you tell someone your ancestors were Italian or Japanese or Cherokee or even some tribe from Africa that they’ve never heard of, they will accept what you say without question. Try telling someone you’re an Elf.

If you tell someone you are descended from elves, they will, A. think you’re crazy, or B. think you are pulling their leg, or C. think that you have taken Dungeons and Dragons a mite too seriously which brings us back to A.

If you tell someone you are on the Elven Path rather than claiming any other religious affiliation they will think you are, A. crazy, B. pulling their leg, or C. part of a weird cult, which brings us back to A.

Because, in the minds of most people, elves do not and have never existed except in Faery Tales. The very words Fairy Tale is defined by the dictionary (Soukhanov, 1984) as a story that is fanciful or fictitious.

So are we, as elves, a religion and thus some form of new age cult, or are we a culture descended from a people who never existed except in the imagination of fanciful people, and in tales told to children before they are old enough to realize what the world is really like?

The answer is neither. The Elven Path is animistic in nature. Nearly all tales about us say that we are the Elder Race (Evans-Wentz, 1966; Tolkien, 1977b), the original people. Our path is aboriginal and thus, as Frazer (1951/1922) points out, shamanistic and pre-religious. Ours is a spiritual path, not a religion. We have no dogma, doctrine nor specific rituals, although every elf is free to follow whatever religion or believe whatever they choose concerning religion, the Universe and the world.

Is it a path we’ve inherited or is it one we’ve created? To me that doesn’t matter; for all spiritual paths began somewhere, sometime. All things, all religions, all cultures, are created. So for the longest time I would tell people that if there never were a historical people called elves, there are now! Yet, I always felt, deep, deep within, that I was descended from elves. For who else but elves would even wish to claim to be an elf?

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